I think this is the perfect week to discuss this topic as I wore Lolita and some of my other fabulous outfits this week during GISHWHES. When I first looked at the prompt I just couldn't remember specific situations. But as soon as last Saturday, the first day of the hunt, I was reminded of the reactions I can get.
For the most part I get positive reactions from my outfits. Last Saturday I wore my Eat Me Ink Me wine lover's skirt for one of our videos for the hunt. I actually had a woman come up and ask if she could take a picture of me in my lolita outfit for her daughter. She actually knew what I was wearing. It was awesome! We chatted for a bit and I tried to be friendly, but I can be a bit shy so I worry that maybe I wasn't as friendly as I wanted to be. Latter that evening a man cat called, "What show is it for." My friends and I ignored him.
These two occurrences helped to jog my memory and I remember many of the reactions I have gotten. Most of them have been positive. I have had a few negative reactions, like the cat calls. There were two preteens once that saw me walking with a parasol. They were making loud comments, from across the street, about how it wasn't raining and why did I have an umbrella. I had a little girl in a store call me a witch over and over again. In most cases I just keep my head up high and keep walking. Save in the case of the girl who was basically going, "Witch, witch!" in the store. I couldn't believe that the girls mother would let her behave like that and actually turned to the girl and told her this was how I liked to dress and the I was not a witch. The mother gave me a dirty look and I was so glad that I bit my tongue. It angered me quite a bit. And It would take some time to organize all my thoughts on the matter of that negative interaction, so I will leave it at this.
For the most part the more confident I have become the easier it has been to let the negative interactions roll off my back. For sometime I was uncertain of what to say or do in the positive interactions. Reading the work of people like Gala Darling and other people who encourage self-love & self-confidence has taught me what to say. Thank you. I thank them. Their comments may make me blush a little, but they also make me feel great and bolster me against the negative interactions. So I thank the people who tell me I look nice or that they love my outfit.
What has your experience been with the reactions of strangers to your clothing?